I'm not one for resolutions as it is. For many years now, I have chosen a word to empower or inspire the life change I wanted to see in the coming 12 months. A softer approach to adjust my mindset, to base decisions from, and most importantly, never the pressure to achieve a random goal based on a calendar date that wasn't personally unique to me. Last year, for everyone was <insert choice swear or negative phrase here>. 2021, despite all the negativity and fear that we all experienced, I stuck to my chosen mindset word of "Adventurous", and for the most part, things turned out pretty well!
I started the year with my 40th birthday approaching. I 'rode out of my thirties' (yes, horseback riding), and 'floated up into forty' (hot air ballooning). I took on a work contract that was a bit frightening, but led to a permanent part-time role in the hospitality industry (so an initiation of fire), took on my first ever pod cast interview, was featured in a social publication, and last but not least, I finished the draft for my first book! All because of my intention to take on an adventurous spirit for the year 2021.
However, whatever was out of my control last year was scary and damaging. I was leaving the year feeling diluted, vacant and overall exhausted. What bugged me the most on NYE was the fact that I had no empowering word to start 2022 with. Me!?! The walking thesaurus and ever in tune and articulate with emotions was on empty - aaahhh! Where to now? I couldn't take these feelings with me into the forthcoming year. In my last attempt to be 'Adventurous' for '21, I spoke to my kids and husband about my little dilemma, what I heard from them spun my head around.
My daughter quickly pointed out that maybe my 'theme for me' should be about healing. I copped yet another blow to my health towards the end of the year, and she felt that I needed to make my decisions in '22 based on making sure I physically recovered. My son, who is just on 8, chuckled and gave me a reassuring hug whilst telling me no word was going to make a real difference. Apparently, I was the best mum anyways (awww). But if he could choose one for me, it would be 'time'. This struck me as odd.
"Time?" I questioned.
"Yes Mamma, time" he said.
"Why the word time? How will that help me?" I queried.
"Take time back, back for you. Don't let people take your time that hurt you or upset you." he said gently.
Yes, he is eight.
My husband piped up and said that "Easy" should be my 2022 motivator. Apparently, I always choose the hard way about going about things. In his opinion, I need to take simpler paths, and look at ways at making life uncomplicated. Like most wives and mothers, I had to suppress an evil chuckle. If it was going to play that way, his life would become soooo much harder! But I took it all on board, and even though I thought I needed a theme / mantra to keep me focused and energised, my families perception was difficult to ignore.
It was true. I really needed less drama, distraction and difficulty. I wanted to feel a bit more at peace with what I couldn't control. I needed to focus on developing almost an absolute calmness and tranquility in order to move forward. So here I am now, working on SERENITY 2022.
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Vanessa is a professional & business coach with experience in marketing & communications, small business operations, organisational culture & learning. She is currently undergoing further training & qualification with the LCA Australia and the International Coaching Federation. Vanessa has recently completed certification as a Wellness Facilitation Coach. Most importantly, she is a mother of two, teaching them to see the world with compassionate eyes and to act in kindness.